Roses are Red, Violets are Blue… and Sometimes, So Am I
Many of you may remember my cyber friend, Mags, of the Magnolia Diaries. I’d asked her to be my guest blogger a couple of weeks back, as I consider her thoughts on a woman’s journey through peri-menopause to be so helpful. She has recently honored me once again with a mention in her blog and I’d like to share it with you. Mags words reflect her courage, compassion, honesty, and feeling. She’s an amazing writer…
I stopped in over at Feisty Side of Fifty to see what Eileen was up to and linked over to another blog to listen to an interview she did regarding menopause. It was interesting and of course fun to hear her voice since we’ve only “chatted” via the Internet.
I appreciate Eileen’s point of view. She is an optimist and chooses to see the bright side in life and to focus on the positive even in the midst of difficulties. That is a healthy attitude to be sure. But, I also found myself relating terribly to the interviewer,Bevery Mahone as she discussed the difficulties she had with depression while going through perimenopause.
Outside of the insomnia, I would have to say that the depression and mood swings have been one of the worst components of perimenopause for me. So, when she talked about how it sapped her energy and enthusiasm for life, boy could I understand. And it does.
I wish we could just take a happy pill and get through it all, but unfortunately, it is a time of life that we must walk through to get through. There are no short cuts and there are no easy routes. If you are one of the approximately 20% of women who have had no symptoms with your perimenopause, say your “amens’ and your ”hallelujahs” now, because the other 80% of us have likely taken them on for you.
I had to face up to the fact that my mood swings and depression were out of my hands and resorted to antidepressants for about two years. I believe Time Magazine even did a piece on menopause and it was said that antidepressants were one of the best and easiest things you could do. I concur. It was difficult for me to take them because being the control freak that I am. I didn’t want to think that I couldn’t “will” myself out of the emotional ups and downs I was experiencing.
But the truth was, I couldn’t. So, I swallowed my pride and the pill along with it and things improved greatly for me. I am happy to say that I am beyond those very difficult days, but I still have the depressive, blues every month.
When it hits, there is nothing I can do but ride it out. I know what it is and that is helpful. Walking helps and chocolate and wine don’t hurt either, but for the most part, just letting it run it’s course has been the best choice of action for me.
Depression is one of those things that people don’t like to admit to. When everyone else around you seems to be coping, it is very difficult to feel that you are not. But, the truth is, depression (and I’m not talking clinical depression) that we deal with in perimenopause is chemically and hormonally based. You are not a failure at life if you struggle with it.
I think sometimes just knowing that you are not alone in the struggle is extremely helpful as well. So, menopause mavens, if you find yourself battling depression and can’t seem to shake it……..you are most definitely not alone and you are always welcome to dump your blues here at The Magnolia Diaires.