Inspiring Each Other
The Olympics can truly bring the world together as we celebrate with pride and excitement the amazing feats of our young athletes. Yes, as with the case of the not-so-young Dara Torres, who I featured in my last post, they can inspire each of us to work towards goals and achievements of our own.
If you’re over fifty, you can probably remember the thrill of viewing the Winter Olympic Games of 1968. Of all things, they were beamed by satellite from Grenoble, France and we could actually witness events as they unfolded. What an astounding display of technology!
Jean-Claude Killy won three gold medals for alpine skiing events. And the darling of our generation, Peggy Fleming, won the only gold medal for the U. S. that year.
However, I’d like to draw your attention to another athlete. This young star, who performed in 1988, has gone unheralded for the past several decades and I’d like to give this gymnast some richly deserved and long awaited accolades for a job well done. The video takes about three minutes to view and, I promise, you won’t be disappointed!Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 5 so far )
Many of you may remember my cyber friend, Mags, of the Magnolia Diaries. I’d asked her to be my guest blogger a couple of weeks back, as I consider her thoughts on a woman’s journey through peri-menopause to be so helpful. She has recently honored me once again with a mention in her blog and I’d like to share it with you. Mags words reflect her courage, compassion, honesty, and feeling. She’s an amazing writer…
I stopped in over at Feisty Side of Fifty to see what Eileen was up to and linked over to another blog to listen to an interview she did regarding menopause. It was interesting and of course fun to hear her voice since we’ve only “chatted” via the Internet.
I appreciate Eileen’s point of view. She is an optimist and chooses to see the bright side in life and to focus on the positive even in the midst of difficulties. That is a healthy attitude to be sure. But, I also found myself relating terribly to the interviewer,Bevery Mahone as she discussed the difficulties she had with depression while going through perimenopause.
Outside of the insomnia, I would have to say that the depression and mood swings have been one of the worst components of perimenopause for me. So, when she talked about how it sapped her energy and enthusiasm for life, boy could I understand. And it does.
I wish we could just take a happy pill and get through it all, but unfortunately, it is a time of life that we must walk through to get through. There are no short cuts and there are no easy routes. If you are one of the approximately 20% of women who have had no symptoms with your perimenopause, say your “amens’ and your ”hallelujahs” now, because the other 80% of us have likely taken them on for you.
I had to face up to the fact that my mood swings and depression were out of my hands and resorted to antidepressants for about two years. I believe Time Magazine even did a piece on menopause and it was said that antidepressants were one of the best and easiest things you could do. I concur. It was difficult for me to take them because being the control freak that I am. I didn’t want to think that I couldn’t “will” myself out of the emotional ups and downs I was experiencing.
But the truth was, I couldn’t. So, I swallowed my pride and the pill along with it and things improved greatly for me. I am happy to say that I am beyond those very difficult days, but I still have the depressive, blues every month.
When it hits, there is nothing I can do but ride it out. I know what it is and that is helpful. Walking helps and chocolate and wine don’t hurt either, but for the most part, just letting it run it’s course has been the best choice of action for me.
Depression is one of those things that people don’t like to admit to. When everyone else around you seems to be coping, it is very difficult to feel that you are not. But, the truth is, depression (and I’m not talking clinical depression) that we deal with in perimenopause is chemically and hormonally based. You are not a failure at life if you struggle with it.
I think sometimes just knowing that you are not alone in the struggle is extremely helpful as well. So, menopause mavens, if you find yourself battling depression and can’t seem to shake it……..you are most definitely not alone and you are always welcome to dump your blues here at The Magnolia Diaires.Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 7 so far )
Many of you read my last post entitled “Raise Your Havingness Quotient!” Although I often write about this idea and firmly believe that women over fifty are, more than ever before, ready to own their power, at least, for me, it doesn’t hurt to revisit this concept from time to time. So, I’m sharing one of my very favorite quotes. It speaks to just this issue and I have it hanging in my office as a way of reminding myself that, yes indeed, I am powerful beyond measure… and so are you!
You have probably seen this before because it has made the rounds. Nevertheless, the words of Marianne Williamson do serve to inspire and spark the genius that resides within each of us. A gentle reminder of our greatness can never be repeated too often.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people
won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to manifest the glory that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
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You may be wondering what I’m talking about. But, there is such a thing as a “havingness quotient” and it’s worth examining and developing. I know, because I recently had my own shaken in ways I never could have imagined.
I have been working on a goal for over five years. When I started, it seemed far out of reach if not impossible. I encountered one hurdle after another and each success was followed by a disappointment. It was almost as if I’d take two steps forward and one step back.
However, I wanted this badly enough to persevere against the odds. My stubbornness kicked in and I doggedly put my nose to the grindstone despite the scrapes and scratches the grinding left on my poor proboscis.
Then a seeming miracle happened—things began to fall into place! I began to get recognized for my work and signs of support started to spring up where I’d least expected. I was ecstatic!
To my surprise, after the initial thrill and amazement began to wear off, I became anxious and began to fall into a funk. What if I couldn’t perform up to expectation? What if I were playing the imposter? What if I would fail? All these questions and doubts started to swirl through my brain and I began to feel immobilized.
But then, a dear friend who is also a therapist, mentioned that I might be struggling with issues related to my ability to “have.” She suggested I try a little exercise to measure my havingness quotient. It’s quite simple and, if you ever have doubts that you are deserving of an outcome, I suggest you give it a try.
Sit quietly, close your eyes and go inside. Imagine that you have a measuring stick running up your body and this gauges your feelings of worthiness for a particular result. It is marked from one to ten and acts like a barometer so that your score can raise and lower.
When I first attempted this, my ranking was a three—far from reaching my desired outcome. If you believe in the Law of Attraction, such a low score was sabotaging my chances for ultimate success. Aware of this, I’m now diligently practicing raising my havingness quotient. I check in frequently to see how high I can take my readings and I’m happy to say that I’m now a seven and climbing.
I pass this along so that each of you can raise your numbers and your potential. If you have spent valuable energy and time devoted to accomplishing a much desired goal, then it’s worth a bit of extra effort. Why not give this little exercise a try and make your own way to the top?Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 7 so far )
My dear friend, Dahlynn McKowen, an amazing lady who’s an award winning author and highly respected editor, turned me on to a most wonderful site. I just had to share it.
It’s called Design-her Gals and it’s an innovative stationery company that allows you to create your own likeness and affix it to invitations, note cards, and the like. The fun part is that you can make yourself into quite the dish and then adorn your body with designer outfits and accessories that make for a fashionable new you. No bad hair days here!
But, even more than that, there is an important mission behind the fun. Design-her Gals was founded by Jeanne Fitzmaurice, who lost both her cousin and her best friend to Stage IV Breast Cancer. In their honor, she also created the Gal to Gal Foundation and five percent of every sale goes to the non-profit. If you choose, you can donate directly and support this important organization.
Over 300,000 patients worldwide will lose their lives to Stage IV Breast Cancer this year. Funds are often scarce for those in this critical stage, when health insurance benefits may be reduced or cancelled, family bank accounts become depleted, and hospice care is hard to find. This is where the Gal to Gal foundation steps in. Their main beneficiary is an organization called “Making Memories.”
Making Memories is dedicated to making a wish come true for women and men who are losing their battle against breast cancer. The wishes and memory-making events they bestow allow the individual the opportunity to put aside the realities of their illness, enjoy themselves, and leave one final, beautiful memory for their family.
So, take some time to visit this remarkable site and take full advantage of the combination of creativity and a cause. You’ll end up having a lot of fun and helping to make a lasting memory all at the same time.Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 7 so far )
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